Stop the Agony
of the Affair

*Is infidelity killing your marriage... or you?
*Are you tired of all the lies, excuses and cheating?
*Are you afraid you won't survive the affair?

You just found out? You feel like you have been punched in the stomach or stabbed in the back. Your heart is pounding. Your breathing is shallow. You can't sleep or eat. All you think about is him/her and the OP (other person.)

You thought infidelity would never happen to you. You are in shock, perhaps literally. Your dreams and hopes for your marriage and family are evaporating.

Or...you know about the affair.You’ve pleaded, begged, threatened, tried to be reasonable, cried, screamed and tried anything else you could think of, but IT continues. It seems like your relationship is going nowhere. You've been stuck for 6 months or more. You have constant thoughts of him/her together. You feel like you are competing with a fantasy and can't possibly win.

Or... you’ve suspected an extramarital affair for a long time, that something strange is going on. But are afraid to say anything. Or you don't want to admit it. Your gut feels queasy. It feels weird. Tension tears at your life. This huge elephant sits in the living room, and no one talks about it.

Or...You keep picking up signs of infidelity, feel extremely uneasy, and confront him/her. And you get, “You must be crazy! No way! You’re paranoid.” But a part of you won’t let it rest. So you spy (and feel very guilty/uncomfortable doing so) and find “evidence” that again is denied, or responded to with anger, as if something is wrong with you.

Or...The affair is out in the open. You even talk about it. But he/she refuses to stop seeing the OP. You are fearful of pushing too hard, for fear he/she will run into the arms of the OP. You are fearful of saying nothing – it might give more permission, AND, you feel like you will go crazy holding everything inside.

Or...You are the OP (other person) and feel awful. You know the infidelity is a huge mistake. You wonder how you ever allowed yourself to go down this road. A part of you whispered, "This could be trouble" and it was right. The thrill is gone and you see destruction around you and within you.

Or...The affair is past. You are “working on the marriage.” How do you get the thoughts of him/her out of your mind? How do you stop being suspicious, watching, wanting to check up on him/her? You ask, “Will I EVER be able to trust again?"

I sometimes tell people, "Infidelity is worse than a death." The feelings are just as awful or more awful. There seems to be no finality, no ending and MUCH confusion.

Now, right now, you have the opportunity to get on track. I'll show you how to end the pain, restore the trust, ask the tough questions, and begin to determine if and how your marriage or relationship can be saved...if that is what you really want.

It can be done and may be easier than you think.

The One FEAR and One Question that
Absolutely Paralyzes and Makes Crazy 98% of those Facing a Relationship or Marriage
Devastated by Infidelity...
(Even though they don't realize its there)

It probably seems like the end of your world. Or, your world seems drastically different now that the affair is part of your life.

This may not be that helpful, but please know that you are not alone.

As a matter of fact, there is one persistent, consistent question that, if not on the mind, is in the hearts of you experiencing betrayal. Hundreds of people come to me with that fear and question over and over and over.

Do you know what it is?

Do you know what it is that drives you to sleepless nights and obsessive thoughts about him and her?

Do you know what it is, deep down that tears at your heart and soul?

Think about it a minute.

An extramarital affair is probably stirring in you, as it does in so many, the God-awful thought: "There must be something wrong with ME!?" "What is so wrong, so defective (especially sexually) about me, to lead him/her to do this?"

And when you struggle with this, you do crazy things. You think crazy things. Your world, plain and simple, is a mess.

Half the battle, yes more than half the battle, many times for many people in the clutches of infidelity isfacing this fear and conquering it.

Now, conquering this, on your own and without quality input is easier said than done.

Why? Well, for one reason there are commonly accepted myths about infidelity that tend to "glamorize" and "normalize" extramarital affairs.

Here are some myths:

These myths reside deep within you and can contribute to a squirrelly life when you face an extramarital affair.

You CAN break through them, not merely in your head, but also in your heart and soul, and truly believe: "There is nothing wrong with me! I am ok! I am not defective. Infidelity is a Huge problem... for them!

And then...watch what happens!!!

The Mega Key to Unlock the Secret to Saving a Marriage Ravaged by an affair

Once you begin to believe that, really believe it, not merely believe you believe it, magic begins to happen.

Yes, magic!

Did you note the comments of those above? Well, I have hundreds of comments like that, and get e-mails every day from those who use the resources on this site and feel profoundly better.

And, in a huge majority of cases their spouse or partner takes notice...and the fun begins!

You see, I come at things from a different angle than most. I shy away from theory and tend to be practical. I ask the hard questions. I don't mince for words. (Plus, I've been at this professionally for over two decades.)

Just the other day a woman wrote me and said that a couple months ago she began reading my e-book, but what I wrote hit her so hard - scared her! - that she had to put it down. She knew she HAD to read it - face it - and is now doing so. She reports that she is now on the way!

What I suggest often runs counter to public opinion. (Public opinion may not be that helpful, since some reports indicate that almost 80% of marriages encounter an affair at one time!)

For example, here are some topics I cover in my 7- part E-mail Series:

7 Very Common Mistakes that Prolong
the Affair AND the Misery,

that fly in the face of convention:

Why "Working on the Relationship" Leads to Abject Failure
Why You Should Not Say You've Changed
Why You Should Not Get the Family Involved
Why You Should Not Use the Bible or Dr. Laura
Why You Should Not Suggest Counseling

Save Your Sanity and Perhaps Marriage

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