Digital Betrayal: How cheating
husbands and wives use phones and computers to
communicate
These days it’s easier than ever to
communicate with people – we’ve got high-speed internet
connections (wireless & otherwise), mobile phones, pagers,
fax machines. We can talk at the touch of a button, across
cities, countries, the entire world. Furthermore, communication
through these digital protocols is almost instant, fairly cheap
and – if you want it to be – completely private and hidden.
While advancements in digital communication
are, on the whole, a great thing, they do have their down
sides. One disadvantage is that cheating husbands, wives (or,
for that matter, girlfriends or boyfriends) can communicate
with their private lovers away from the prying eyes and ears of
their trusting partners. It happens every day: thousands upon
thousands of text messages are sent by disloyal men and women
to those they’re sleeping with behind their real partners’
backs.
Back in the day, the only way a guy or girl
could arrange a clandestine meeting would be over a hard-line
(either a house phone or a payphone). That meant the cheater
would either have to make risky calls from the home of their
unsuspecting spouses, or secretly take a trip to a local call
box and do it from there. Both of these methods of
communication could often be spotted by the betrayed party
quite easily.
But that’s now a thing of the past. It’s now
a cinch for a cheater to send messages to their secret lovers
from work, a locked bathroom, even from under the bed covers
while their current, faithful partner sleeps quietly and 100%
unaware of what’s going on just 6 inches away from them.
It’s true; things are easier for cheaters
these days…but not that easy. Just as all others kinds of
cheats – be it a card shark, a conman or a computer hacker –
leave signs of their dishonesty behind, so do disloyal
partners. And looking for the right signs, in the right places,
is the absolute best way of knowing for sure if you can trust
your partner.
Okay, you know now how easy it is for cheaters to
communicate with their secret partners using digital
communication. But what are the signs, the indications, the
clues of this kind of activity? Let’s take a look:
1. Computers offer cheaters a multitude of communication
methods, including: email, instant messenger programs, chat
rooms and forums. Although it can be difficult to tell what
your partner’s doing online without actually looking over their
shoulder (tricky!), there are indications you can look for more
easily. One is an increased amount of time spent at the
computer for no apparent reason, perhaps when you’re in bed or
before you get up. Another is your partner quickly turning off
the computer monitor or turning it away from you when you enter
the room.
Also, try checking the internet browsing history of the
computer your partner uses most often. Sometimes there are web
pages, chat room locations or other signs that your partner has
been taking part in internet infidelity to be found there.
Other times, you’ll find that the browser history has been
freshly deleted – this, as you can imagine, could be equally
suspicious.
2. As mentioned earlier, mobile/cellular phones make quick
and private communication easy. If you feel comfortable doing
so, checking your partner’s phone’s call history, address book
and text message archive can provide you with a wealth of
telling information. Bear in mind, though, that cheating
partner’s – in an effort to remain uncaught – often keep their
phones on their person most of the time. If your partner used
to leave their phone lying around, but now never seems to do
so, you must ask yourself why.
3. Last but not least, don’t forget or ignore the “old”
style methods of cheater communication. Many cheaters still use
house phones to call their secret lovers. Check your itemized
phone bill for calls to local numbers you don’t recognize and
that aren’t in your phone book. Also, pay attention to how your
partner reacts when you walk into the room when they’re on the
phone. It’s difficult to mask panic and surprise when the
partner you’re cheating on walks into the room while you’re
chatting to your secret significant other. Quick hang-ups could
be a sign your partner’s being disloyal over the phone and,
perhaps, elsewhere.
By keeping your eyes peeled and ears open, you can sidestep
the advantages new methods of communication offer cheaters and,
hopefully, discover what’s really going on.
For more ways to catch a cheating spouse, go to BeatingCheating
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