Give Surprises - Don't be always Predictable

A relationship can always benefit with a pleasant surprise once in a while.

If you and your mate have scheduled some time for a Friday night dinner, put together a surprise instead. 

For example, if your mate loves professional wrestling, buy some tickets near the front or if they like concerts, purchase the tickets ahead of time, getting the best seats possible.  When Friday night comes around, insist on driving and head toward the location where the event is taking place. 

When asked where you are going, simply answer, “I have a surprise for you.  I know you love professional wrestling so I purchased two great seats for tonight’s performance,” or “I know we had planned on going to dinner, but I wanted to surprise you with something special.  I purchased tickets to see one of your favorite groups in concert.” 

The idea of you getting the tickets for something THEY like and then keeping it as a special surprise will touch the heart!  

Secrets getaways are also another thing very beheficial to building good marriage relationships. Plan a nice weekend getaway to some place off the beaten track where you can enjoy some privacy.  A quaint cottage or charming bed and breakfast would be ideal choices.  Scout out the area ahead of time and choose a few things that the two of you would like to do in the area but just be sure to leave plenty of time for you to enjoy some alone time.  Order a nice bottle of wine or some hot cappuccino and relax in front of the fire!  Make this a romantic weekend where you can rekindle your love.

When asking couples the factors involved in the breaking down of their relationship, one of the common responses is that everything in the relationship is so predictable.  When rebuilding a relationship, do not be afraid of letting go of boredom.  If you normally hate the fact that Saturday afternoons consist of your mate sitting for hours watching football, fix some finger sandwiches and something cool to drink and go join them on the couch, or if your mate spends hours in the garden trying to make things look perfect, surprise them with a new flowering plant, and then help to plant it.  When taking a walk with your mate, stop and give them a soft kiss, say, “I love you,” and then keep walking.  Take some chances and do the unexpected.

Do not be always predictable in your little actions.  It helps to improve relationships in marriage.