Keep the Kids Out of It

This is an important point which parents often forget.

If there are kids involved in a marriage or relationship, it is crucial that they are not used as pawns in any situation or used to give excuses that are not exactly related to him. 

For example, if your partner wants to get to bed and be intimate and you are not in the mood, do not  use the kids as an excuse that you have to do something for them like help with their homework or if something that needed to be done was not taken care of because you forgot, do not blame it on the kids by saying you were busy taking care of the kids and did not have time 

In the first instance, it is better to be honest with your partner and tell them that you are very tired and while intimacy is important, you would prefer to make sure the kids are in bed on time so the two of you can have some quality time together.  This opens an honest line of communication and does not place ill feelings on the kids, especially since it is not their problem to begin with.

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