Cheating Husband
or Wife: 6 Keys to Know if You are Ready
to Handle What You Might Find when You
Spy
by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The
Infidelity Coach
When
you spy on your suspected cheating spouse, please make sure you
consider all the possibilities you might encounter and whether you
can handle them.
Have
you considered the many situations that spying might uncover? Can
you imagine the worst thing you might find? Predict what your
response will be to the worst-case scenario. Are you ready? Here
are some specific questions to ask:
1)
Do I have friends I can count on for support if I discover the
worst? Do they know I might need them? Have I told them exactly how
they might help me? Do I have the capacity to stand back from the
deep emotions and not get mired or lost in destructive thoughts and
feelings?
2)
How have I handled emotional pain in the past? What if it gets
almost unbearable? If I encounter the worst possible emotional hurt
and pain, do I have a therapist I can contact immediately and see
soon to help me through the rough spots?
3)
You see the signs of a cheating spouse. What will be my strategy
for what I find? Do I have a strategy for the different scenarios?
Do I have a strategy to confront or not confront my spouse? How,
when and under what circumstances will I confront
him/her?
4)
What kind of strategy will I have for self-care? What will I need
to do to keep myself functioning somewhat effectively?
5)
Do I have a coach or an objective someone who knows about cheating
husbands and cheating wives and who can help me develop strategies
and goals for confrontation and self-care? Someone to keep me
focused and working on these strategies and goals?
6)
Do I know what kind of affair I might face? Do I know the prognosis
for that kind of affair? Have I educated myself about affairs and
what I must do to effectively resolve and move through this
crisis?
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Dr.
Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of
couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of
extramarital affairs and survive infidelity.
Break Free
From Affair
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