You CAN
Save Your Marriage!

Even if Only YOU Want to
Work on It!

 Dear Friend,

 Every marriage deserves a fair chance, no matter where it is now, and no matter what you or your spouse have done (or not done).  You may have tried to change things with little success.  You may be wondering if there is any hope for the relationship.  It’s time for a change.

Perhaps you feel that the only choice you have now is between accepting things the way they are or ending it. Many marriages are in a similar place.

I just got off the phone with a former client. She reminded me of her fears of divorce when she first called me. She and her husband had been through a number of problems during their marriage--including her husband having an emotional affair with a co-worker!  They were at a stalemate. A friend sent them to see me.  Soon, their marriage was moving forward. . . not just to where it had been, but to where they wanted it to really be.

She called to let me know they were adopting another child, and had never been happier!  Why do I tell you about her?  You may be in a similar place as they were when they called me.

You want things to change, but don’t know what to do.  Or you have tried many things in the past, but the marriage seems to fall into the same rut.

You already know the statistics: nearly 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce. 

Worse, Marriage Counseling has an equally poor record.  According to studies, almost 50% of couples in therapy end up divorced.  Only 10 to 20% of couples who go to therapy see any significant help from counseling. 

But all is not lost. There is hope!

Read on, and I’ll tell you how.  I’ll let you know how you can get the relationship of your dreams . . . and it’s easier than you think!

Learning communication skills is not enough. That just teaches you to fight more effectively.

Give up on arguing.  It always becomes a battle of opinions, and neither of you is likely to change.

Forget the theories you have heard.

But don’t give up on the marriage! There is an alternative to divorce. In fact, you could have the relationship of your dreams!

Sound impossible?  Perhaps from where you are now. But trust me,
I’ve seen the results:

• He had an affair.  In 6 months, the couple left my office with a marriage stronger than ever. . . in fact, their dream relationship.
• A couple that had been fighting for ten years. After applying the information and skills I provided, they gave up their habits and have learned to cherish each other.
• Another couple hadn’t felt intimacy (or had sex) for over 8 years. They have rekindled their love (and their passion), and have discovered their dream marriage, simply by applying the principles I provided.
• And the couple where the relationship was just “blah.” No fun, no passion . . . nothing but the children.  After working on their relationship, they found how close they really were to their ideal relationship.
• Couple after couple on the brink of divorce, discovering how close they were to the relationship of their dreams!
• And many, many more couples over the years, at many different levels of relating, have transformed their relationship!

Could that be you? I firmly believe that virtually anyone can have their dream marriage, with the right information. Unfortunately, the information out there tends to add more stress to the relationship, not less. 

How do I know?

I’ve spent nearly 20 years counseling couples. For quite a few years, I did counseling like everyone else--I taught communication skills, I look at what couples fought about and I watched them argue. And I watched many end in divorce.

I had to ask myself what I was doing wrong.  This led to a great deal of searching and testing.  I had the opportunity to work with couples before they married, while happily married, and with those in trouble.  I finally discovered the secrets to helping couples discover their dream relationship. 

In fact, I had discovered THE REASON people ended up with failed relationships.  When I looked at the difference between people in happy marriages and those in troubled marriages, the answer is obvious!

More than that, I realized that it was never enough to merely fix the problem. By moving beyond the problem, couples could actually take their relationship to the next level! They could move from a marriage in trouble to the relationship of their dreams.

More than that, I realized that much of what I was learning could be applied even if only one wanted to make a change. It doesn’t always “take two to tango.”  Sometimes, a relationship can be transformed by one person.

(In case you are wondering, I’ve also been very happily married for almost 18 years. We use the principles and ideas in our relationship every day to keep it going well!)

Your Relationship Can Change!

I took what I learned and wrote an ebook.  In it, You will find the lessons and information from nearly a decade and a half of marriage counseling.  I’ve included the theory, exercises, and examples of how other couples have been transformed.

This ebook is now ready for you to read. It is ready to provide you with the information you need to transform your relationship.

You won’t find a lot of “fluff” in this book.  You don’t have the time for that. Instead, you will discover the secrets of not only saving your marriage, but having the relationship of your dreams!

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You’ll discover:

• Why “hard work” on the relationship isn’t always the answer.
• Why “low mood therapy” is destined for failure and how “high mood relating” makes the difference.
• How to move beyond emotions and take action!
• How to find the North Star of your relationship, and why it matters.
• Why true intimacy is a lot closer than you think--and how to get there!
• What the TIE Elements of Communication are, and how they can transform your communication.
• How to change the momentum of a relationship, sometimes instantaneously!
• What the Practices of Marriage are, and how they can transform your relationship.
• Why arguing is a waste of time--and the amazingly simple secret to get around it.
• How to become a team, even if you feel like opposites.
• Why power is so destructive to relationships and how to change it.
• How to deal with problems involving sex or money.
• How to make paradigm shifts (literally, quantum leaps!) in the relationship.
• Much, much more about how to transform your relationship.
• In short, how to have the marriage of your dreams.

Also included in this ebook is a powerful report I have developed and used in seminars for years. This report, Three Simple Secrets to a Successful Marriage, has transformed relationships based only on the three elements in the report.

In the ebook and included report, you will discover the information, skills, and understanding you need to make the relationship work.  This information isn’t available anywhere else!  These strategies have been developed over the years, and they work.

And here is the important point to remember: with my methods, you don’t have to convince the other person to change.  You can work on the relationship, even if your spouse doesn’t see the need!

 But YOU have to make the first move!

If you’ve been stuck in a relationship that is less fulfilling than you want it, this is your chance to change it. There’s a saying that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different outcome. Do something different and discover a different outcome.

 Faithfully,
 Lee Baucom, Ph.D.

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